Staff Picks: Exploring Narratives on Domestic Abuse

February 19, 2024

We’ve asked BCWA staff for recommendations on media that delves into narratives surrounding domestic abuse. From books to films, series, and podcasts, our team members share recommendations that not only…

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We’ve asked BCWA staff for recommendations on media that delves into narratives surrounding domestic abuse. From books to films, series, and podcasts, our team members share recommendations that not only entertain but also challenge perspectives, spark conversations, and inspire empathy and action. 

! Trigger warning !

Survivors should be aware that the following media could be triggering. Support persons, advocates and anyone else closely entwined in domestic violence can also be triggered by the stories and topics discussed.  

It’s OK if you can’t or don’t want to watch, read or listen —prioritize your mental health first and foremost, and know that you can reach out to us if you find yourself struggling.   

Podcast: The Rising Beyond Podcast  

“This podcast is hosted by Sybil Cummin, a licensed counselor specialising in working with victims and survivors of domestic abuse. Each episode discusses a different topic, such as ‘Navigating Divorce with a Narcissist’, ‘Finding Your Purpose After Trauma and Domestic Violence’ and ‘Journaling Can Help You Heal from Abuse’, often with guest speakers. I like that they provide hope for women on their healing journey.” Robyn, Fundraising Manager 

YouTube True Crime Documentary: Banaz Mahmod’s Honor Killing: A Tragic Story 

“This is a very difficult watch but worth it. It highlights the police failings and their inexperience and ignorance in relation to honour based killings. At BCWA, we named one of our refuges in memory of Banaz.” Sarah, Accommodation Services Manager 

Netflix series: Maid  

“I recently watched the Netflix series “Maid” which I thought did a great job of highlighting nonphysical abuse—psychological and verbal abuse, coercive control, financial abuse. The series recognises that domestic abuse is far more complex than the stereotype of man hits woman, woman runs away, man goes to jail. It explores the cycle of abuse for both the young Mum, Alex, and her alcoholic partner, Sean.” Robyn, Fundraising Manager 

HBO series: Big Little Lies 

“I’m still watching the series but so far “Big Little Lies” shows that domestic abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of socio-economic status, education, ethnicity, etc. The series doesn’t limit domestic abuse to physical violence; it also addresses emotional, psychological, sexual and financial abuse. This is important as it helps to understand that abuse can manifest in different ways, not just through physical harm. It also addresses the role of the community and how many times the bystanders turn a blind eye or perpetuate a culture of silence.  

Finally, it suggests that children who witness domestic abuse experience trauma, and how they might struggle with anxiety, aggression, and difficulties in forming healthy relationships as a result.” Catherine, Young People & Children’s Services Manager 

Book: On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous by Ocean Vuong 

“I’ve just read the 2019 novel “On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous” by Vietnamese-American author Ocean Vuong. It’s a semi-autobiographical account of the immigrant experience in the USA but it also touches painfully on the physical abuse his mother received at the hands of her husband. It’s written in the form of a long letter from the now grown-up son to his mother. This was the line that got me: “by then, he had beaten you only twice, which meant there was still a hope it might be the last”.” Melanie, HR Officer 

Book: Enough (the violence against women and girls and how to end it) by Harriet Johnson   

“Harriet Johnson is a respected and experienced barrister, which is clear throughout ‘Enough’. She explains the law in a way that is easy to follow, captures the impact and reality of violence against women and girls as well as providing a manifesto on how to address the flaws with policing and justice (or lack thereof). The book covers many types of abuse and violence, as well as discussing real life cases, done in a way that respects the victims. She is succinct, her words powerful and encourage action. At the end of the book she provides a list of resources and places to get support which I appreciated, as the content was harrowing and stayed with me.” Amy, Fundraising Officer .

Book: My Own by Eni Aluko 

“As a black immigrant woman in the United Kingdom, writing a book to share my experience on domestic violence and its effects is a powerful act of self-expression and advocacy. It serves as a voice for the often marginalized and silenced, shedding light on the unique challenges faced by immigrants who navigate the complexities of a new culture while dealing with the trauma of abuse. 

The book is a candid exploration of identity, belonging, and survival. It confronts the additional layers of difficulty that immigrant survivors of domestic violence encounter, such as language barriers, legal uncertainties, and the fear of societal exclusion. By sharing my story, I aim to raise awareness about the intersectionality of race, immigration, and domestic violence, and to offer solidarity and hope to others who may feel isolated in their struggles.” Eni Aluko, domestic abuse survivor and ex-service user 

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